Be your weird self

I have yet to be invited on to Desert Island Discs, though I have thought about my list, and I find myself choosing songs that make me look wise or intelligent or cultured.

But if I am really honest, it includes Teenage Kicks by The Undertones, When I Kissed the Teacher by Abba and Bryan Adams’ Summer of 69, all songs that make me want to dance and believe me, when I grew up, liking Abba was distinctly uncool so I kept that quiet.

We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.

May Sarton

As I have already said, everyone has a different way of “doing their thing.” Getting to be who you are and letting go of image and pretence have been a part of my business and relationship armament all my life and come under the heading of be yourself at all times.

It’s disarmingly endearing and creates rapport, which oils the wheels of agreement.

  • Take Away

    Connecting

  • In deal negotiations when the other side has threatened to walk out, my response has been, “Ah! The old ‘walking out’ ploy.”

  • They can’t help smiling and they don’t walk out. We all have ploys we use to get what we want. Expose yours and those of others.

  • The closer you can be to your natural self the more appealing you are to others.

  • Lightening up about my own image and how others saw me was to be a big lesson.

  • How would you be if a miracle made everything you tried successful?

  • Vulnerability with dignity is attractive and breaks down barriers.